Captain’s log, stardate 20171230
Sent by Jonathan Stark on December 30th, 2017
I’m not big into New Year’s resolutions. It’s probably been close to three decades since I made one.
It’s not that I’m against the idea in general... they just didn’t work for me so I stopped doing them.
Actually, saying they didn’t work for me is an understatement. It’s not that they were ineffective... it’s worse than that. They had a demonstrably negative impact on me psychologically.
I used to make these grandiose promises to myself like, “This is the year I get a record deal!”
ASIDE: For the under-forty crowd a “record deal” was like a bank loan given to a rock band by something called a “record company”. Also... a “record” was a round piece of plastic that contained audio information encoded in a spiral groove that was physically carved into it. The decoder was called a “record player” which had a needle that was dragged through the groove by the rotation of the oh my god I’m so old please send help I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!
The excitement of making a grandiose promise to myself on New Year’s Eve always - ALWAYS - turned to despair relatively quickly. It felt like breaking a promise to myself.
Which lead to a feeling of not trusting myself.
Which is a scary feeling.
I think my problem was that I was setting unrealistic goals.
But dig this...
My goals were not unrealistic because they were objectively unobtainable - after all, plenty of people had record deals at the time - they were unrealistic because I had no plan for achieving them.
If you are thinking about making a grandiose New Years resolution this year, first ask yourself this:
“What are the steps I will take to achieve this outcome?”
If you have a plan in mind - even a very rough one - I say go for it!
If not, then ask yourself, “Self, are you bullshitting me?”
Life is too short to lie to yourself.
P.S. Do you have a goal but no idea how to reach it? I help people with exactly that in my private mentoring program.
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“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” —Albert Einstein